“Every human being has paid the earth to grow up. Most people don’t grow up. It’s too damn difficult. What happens is most people get older. That’s the truth of it. They honor their credit cards, they find parking spaces, they marry, they have the nerve to have children, but they don’t grow up. Not really. They get older. But to grow up costs the earth, the earth. It means you take responsibility for the time you take up, for the space you occupy. It’s serious business. And you find out what it costs us to love and to lose, to dare and to fail. And maybe even more, to succeed. What it costs, in truth. Not superficial costs—anybody can have that—I mean in truth. That’s what I write. What it really is like.”

— Maya Angelou, in a 1990 Paris Review interview with George Plimpton (via bookmania)

… you have come to the right place…. Ah, please read and look around. I hope that’s obvious. As an adoptee I warn you I do have opinions and I write them here and on my other blogs. I have been in reunion now over 20 years!


Trace’s memoir ONE SMALL SACRIFICE was the ground-breaking exposé on the systematic removal of American Indian children from their mothers, families and tribes for adoption to non-Indian families while she weaves in her own personal story.  Known for her exceptional print interviews with influential Native Americans such as Leonard Peltier, John Trudell and Floyd Red Crow Westerman, Hentz (who legally dropped the name DeMeyer in 2015) started intensive research on adoptees in 2004.  Her discoveries culminated in a fact-filled memoir first published in 2010, then a second revised edition in 2012.  Her adoptee journey takes her around the country, finally meeting her birthfather in 1994 and learning about her mixed ancestry (Cherokee-Shawnee-Delaware-French Canadian.)

Award-winning journalist Trace is former editor of tribal newspapers the Pequot Times in Mashantucket, Conn. (1999-2004) and Ojibwe Akiing in Wisconsin (1996-1999).  She also worked and has freelanced for News from Indian Country, a national independent Native newspaper.  Her chapter HONOR RESTORED on Sac and Fox Olympian Jim Thorpe won critical praise in the 2001 book Olympics at the Millennium (published by Rutgers Press). Her poetry was published in the spring 2009 edition of Yellow Medicine Review.  She read from her highly-anticipated memoir manuscript at the Wisconsin Book Festival in October 2008.  In 2009, she started her blog about American Indian Adoptees: www.splitfeathers.blogspot.com.  Her memoir was chosen as Native America Calling’s Book of the Month is March 2010.

She was a frequent guest and executive producer for Jay Winter Nightwolf’s radio program in Washington DC.

Trace has contributed to adoption anthologies: Lost Daughters, Adoption Reunion in the Age of Social Media, and Adoptionland: From Orphans to Activists.  In 2013, she was co-editor of the anthology Unravelling the Spreading Cloth of Time: Indigenous Thoughts Concerning the Universe with MariJoMoore.

The blog American Indian Adoptees [www.splitfeathers.blogspot.com] ranks 49 in the top 100 adoption blogs and has reached over three-quarters of a million views in 2017.

In 2017, Trace contributed poetry to Tending the Fire: Native Voices and Portraits and was a finalist in The Poet’s Seat competition.

Her writing: http://www.laratracehentz.wordpress.com. She lives at the foot of the Berkshire Mountains in Greenfield, Massachusetts with her husband Herb.


Yes, I am Trace/Lara Hentz but I’m really known more as Trace DeMeyer which is OK.
I am consulting comma girl gifother bloggers, teaching the basics locally.
Since 2004, I researched and documented the horrific history of Indian Adoption Projects: The books are One Small Sacrifice, Two Worlds, Called Home, Stolen Generations, and In The Veins: Lost Children of the Indian Adoption Projects Book Series. (all are on amazon and e-readers.)  STOLEN GENERATIONS: Survivors of the Indian Adoption Projects and 60s Scoop, hit Amazon April 27 2016.
My memoir One Small Sacrifice is under my old name Trace A. DeMeyer.
I moved posts from my author blog [tracedemeyer.com & armyofone.me] [now defunct] to this blog so that writing won’t be lost forever.
My name change in 2014 to HENTZ means I have legally dropped the adoption name DeMeyer. Harlow is a family name on my dad Earl Bland’s side. His mother was Lona Dell Harlow.
A continuation of One Small Sacrifice: A Memoir can be found in my two chapbooks SLEEPS WITH KNIVES and BECOMING (using the pen-name Laramie Harlow.)
me, 1980s, Tall Oak says I have turquoise eyes!
ABOUT ME: about.me/Trace15
me, news article, age 22, Richland, WA
I have contributed to many books on my experience as an adoptee.


If you’d like to read this book series, they are on Kindle. Please ask your local bookstore to order the paperback for you. Or use http://www.indiebound.org
Links to purchase from Amazon are here: www.bluehandcollective.com












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