On occasion I write a post on the Lost Daughters blog. In the past week, I had more than one friend send me a blog that was created by an adoptive parent that showed photos and personal details about young adoptees. So I asked some of the Lost Daughters, who are adult adoptees, to send me links to posts that refer to APs who blog about their adopted children.
Here is the link to my post on Friday: http://www.thelostdaughters.com/2014/10/why-adoptive-parents-need-to-stop.html
I added a few comments this morning like this:
I am reading these comments Kristi and others. Thank you everyone.
First and foremost, there isn’t a BLOG POLICE. This post is my opinion. In 2010, I was very surprised to hear this discussion from adoption professionals on blogging about adoptees in particular. I had not considered this myself.
Since 2009, I read blogs every day because I blog myself. When I was doing research back in 2004, the adoption industry had, hands down, controlled the adoption industry with books on how to adopt. There were 5,000+ books on adoption on Amazon and the majority were written by and for the adoption industry.
Then blogs and websites kicked off. Again, the majority of blogs were written by APs and adoption professionals. They dominated the discourse until blogs like Lost Daughters and Lost Mothers arrived.
Obviously propaganda is about managing public information, as adoption is a billion dollar industry and looks to recruit more parents to adopt, steering people to believe in the benevolence of adoption, to keep their income stream. I still find blogs about APs who just adopted and are fundraising again. It’s growing – not slowing – as a phenomena.
What deeply concerns me, as an adoptee, is you can find a blog by a blog address and date, years later. If you have adopted a child, these posts can be read by their peers and strangers. What APs do in offering personal details and their opinions, these are available for anyone to read, not just adults.
A blog post is a pulpit, a one-way conversation (until comments). APs may quote their children but that is not the same as consent.
Further expansion of blogs, especially by parents, is a deep concern to me and many others.
Should any child be exposed to public scrutiny?
Then the APs started to unleash on Facebook: (this is one thread)
I am not hurt that adoptive parents are calling me names — then telling me they have every right to post whatever they want about whomever they want whenever they want. That is their prerogative. But as an adoptee, as I wrote in the post, I would have blown my lid if I had found personal information about my childhood on a blog.
I would have felt more betrayed and violated than hurt. I would have felt owned.