Favorite quote: I wish we adoptees knew our power. We keep demanding a seat at the table, but the reality is our table is set but the only ones with dance cards are the ones in support of international adoption continuing status quo.
This blog is so excellent!
Code-switching – the practice of shifting the languages you use or the way you express yourself in your conversations. www.npr.org/blogs/codeswitch
Anyone who enters the adoption community or has gone through the adoption process quickly learns that our constellation has words all unto ourselves. To hear an adoptee talk about her mother, we automatically know she is talking about her adoptive mother, no distinction needs to be made among us. What’s interesting is that those who go through the adoption process are taught that a birthmother made an “adoption plan” while we adoptees say, “when she gave me up for adoption.” We learned that adoptive parents don’t like using the word “abandoned” so they are encouraged to tell their child, “you were put in a place to be found.” We, adoptees know, we were abandoned and if not abandoned, we opt for alternate words to describe the severing of our connection…
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