Back in 2009, for the execrable “Adoption Month” (which now includes the heinous “Orphan Day”) I posted a series of “30 answers to 30 questions” concerning adoption. It was an attempt to circumvent the usual nonsense dumped on any adoptee who actually stands up and speaks his or her mind. You can find them at my Mediarama web site [link]; I’ll be porting them here one at a time over the coming month.
The questions listed out include:
- Do people who have been adopted blame others all their lives for their adoption?
- Can someone please tell me more about the darkside of adoption?
- When/why did the word “bitter” get associated with non-compliant adoptees?
- Why would someone think that Adoption erases a child’s identity?
- What do you anticipate your response will be if another family member/friend decides to adopt?
- What about the children? Is it better for a child to live in hell?
- Does anything anyone say about adoption hurt you anymore?
- [What do you think of this] “Gotcha Day” celebration?
- Should international adopters send the children back?
- Do you believe God has a play in infertility/fertility/adoption?
- Why is it common for infant-adoptive parents to be ridiculed?
- Have you felt in your life like you’re always searching for something?
- In adoption-speak, what difference between “from China” and “Chinese”?
- Should I write this letter to the child in my care’s mother?
- Wouldn’t you want Lebanese orphans to be saved like you?
- Why are people so against adoption here?
- Shouldn’t we praise those who disrupt their adoptions?
- What if I make every effort to help my child through their grief?
- Is there a difference between an adopted child and a “Western” child?
- Why don’t more people adopt?
- What can adoptive parents do to change things?
- What do you think of ex-patriate adoptions abroad?
- Reclaiming Adoption: Doesn’t it say to adopt in the Bible?
- Is it okay to not get U.S. citizenship for an internationally adopted child?
- What are you grateful for as an adoptee?
- Is there any value in an adoptee cultural camp?
- What does “adoptee” mean to you?
- What are you [adoptee] trying to accomplish on this blog?
- Isn’t it valid to compare adoption with a pregnancy?
- What is adoption if not oppression?
The point here was always to shift the debate from the personal to the economical and political. “Entitled opinion” of course exists where history is concerned, but at least changing the parameters of the discussion gets us away from the purely emotional, and the mythologies that take advantage of this.
Do click on the link and read his answers which are amazing! …Lara/Trace