..The violence we experience as children is so easily passed on to our children and we adoptees need to be particularly careful to address our primal wound and it’s ramifications well before we have kids, if we are able. So few of us are and do and that empty space, the void left by our missing mother, the violence done to us by our removal from her or our abandonment by her, leaves scars which make it hard for us to parent as effectively, lovingly and connectedly as we might wish. We may not even be aware that the hole in our hearts, the empty space which is never filled, will affect our ability to parent, to bond with our child and to attach in loving, healthy ways.
- Helping or hovering? When ‘helicopter parenting’ backfires (vitals.nbcnews.com)